Comments on: I S S U E S http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/ The takeover. The break's over. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 11:09:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Kirk http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-386 Kirk Tue, 01 Mar 2005 06:46:57 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-386 Why hasn't anyone commented on the Rosa Parks-Outkast issue? Seems to me that one way or the other, someone somewhere is trying to take advantage of this woman. Setting aside her place in history for a moment, that is beyond foul even if she were just another grandma and not who she is. Why hasn’t anyone commented on the Rosa Parks-Outkast issue? Seems to me that one way or the other, someone somewhere is trying to take advantage of this woman. Setting aside her place in history for a moment, that is beyond foul even if she were just another grandma and not who she is.

]]> By: C http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-385 C Mon, 28 Feb 2005 21:22:50 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-385 Ha! Yes I'm part of the cliche crew but I can't front on what hseuss said. Among other things (like a sharp mind and good conversation) we all really want the same thing: A beautiful woman, who can cook and has a good job (which of course are the same things women are looking for too). But yo what's good with Friday and Saturday night? Add to my list a solid bedroom game and everything is on point. Ha! Yes I’m part of the cliche crew but I can’t front on what hseuss said. Among other things (like a sharp mind and good conversation) we all really want the same thing: A beautiful woman, who can cook and has a good job (which of course are the same things women are looking for too). But yo what’s good with Friday and Saturday night? Add to my list a solid bedroom game and everything is on point.

]]> By: hseuss3000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-384 hseuss3000 Mon, 28 Feb 2005 20:45:23 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-384 If I had read this about a year ago my first comment would have been, "Fuck these Hoes", but I like to think I've grown up a little. I'm friends with the person I loved most in life but it's only possible because of massive amounts of denial and melancoly. While everyone is rocking with the "better to have loved and lost..." cliche, I'll do you one better. It's better to be melancholy and not know than to have your freaking heart broken repeatedly. That love shit is cool, but it doesn't serve any real value. Give me a beautiful woman (not because I'm shallow,I want pretty babies) with a good job that can cook and I'll come home Sunday through Thursday nights. That's a solid relationship. If I had read this about a year ago my first comment would have been, “Fuck these Hoes”, but I like to think I’ve grown up a little. I’m friends with the person I loved most in life but it’s only possible because of massive amounts of denial and melancoly.

While everyone is rocking with the “better to have loved and lost…” cliche, I’ll do you one better. It’s better to be melancholy and not know than to have your freaking heart broken repeatedly.

That love shit is cool, but it doesn’t serve any real value. Give me a beautiful woman (not because I’m shallow,I want pretty babies) with a good job that can cook and I’ll come home Sunday through Thursday nights. That’s a solid relationship.

]]> By: Candy Cane http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-383 Candy Cane Mon, 28 Feb 2005 17:46:12 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-383 Love is something that most of us long for. The only problem with it is that the love, however distributed, is never equal on both sides - someone always loves the other more. It can definitely be a blissful or painful experience (I say that from experience). The realization you need to come to is which one it is for you. Find out why you're having these feelings now. Is/Was there some need for closure, something left unspoken? Good luck to you on finding some sort of solace. You're in my prayers. <i>Bomani's note - It ain't that bad. Those were just observations. Perhaps the magnitude of thoughts are emotions seem amplified by the fact that others don't discuss 'em, but I ain't go home and listen to the Glutton for Punishment list. I just ate and went to sleep</i>. Love is something that most of us long for. The only problem with it is that the love, however distributed, is never equal on both sides - someone always loves the other more. It can definitely be a blissful or painful experience (I say that from experience). The realization you need to come to is which one it is for you. Find out why you’re having these feelings now. Is/Was there some need for closure, something left unspoken? Good luck to you on finding some sort of solace. You’re in my prayers.

Bomani’s note - It ain’t that bad. Those were just observations. Perhaps the magnitude of thoughts are emotions seem amplified by the fact that others don’t discuss ‘em, but I ain’t go home and listen to the Glutton for Punishment list. I just ate and went to sleep.

]]> By: alldaydre http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-382 alldaydre Mon, 28 Feb 2005 11:35:41 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-382 i don't know. regret's looking better every day. if it helps, i love you bo. but i know it doesn't. i don’t know. regret’s looking better every day. if it helps, i love you bo. but i know it doesn’t.

]]> By: If all teachers were this hot... http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-381 If all teachers were this hot... Sat, 26 Feb 2005 15:18:38 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-381 Tis better to have loved and lost than loved and contracted something fatal. Tis better to have loved and lost than loved and contracted something fatal.

]]> By: strong4u http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-380 strong4u Sat, 26 Feb 2005 05:25:15 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-380 Love is a many splendored thing. It can also be a pain in the ass. At the ripe-old age of 35, I have convinced myself that love, other than familial, is probably not for me. I have decided to live my life to the fullest and enjoy each and every moment and if love comes in the process, so be it. In response to Kirk, I can tell you that, (in my experience), man-to-man love is hopeless as well. So, if man and woman are hoplessly incompatible, (in most cases), and same-sex relationships are equally doomed, what the hell is going on here? Love is a many splendored thing. It can also be a pain in the ass. At the ripe-old age of 35, I have convinced myself that love, other than familial, is probably not for me. I have decided to live my life to the fullest and enjoy each and every moment and if love comes in the process, so be it. In response to Kirk, I can tell you that, (in my experience), man-to-man love is hopeless as well. So, if man and woman are hoplessly incompatible, (in most cases), and same-sex relationships are equally doomed, what the hell is going on here?

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-379 Elizabeth Sat, 26 Feb 2005 03:23:04 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-379 I've known you (yet not) for a few years now. You're very possibly the most complicated person I've ever met. I always thought you had issues with women in general. But that's not an attack on you, so I hope you're not offended. Men and women, in my view, at times - most times - seem hopelessly incompatible. The end of a love relationship is painful, no doubt. And sometimes the feeling of failure presses on you just as much as the feeling of heart ache. If anyone hates the feeling of losing at anything, it's you. Regret is a bitch. I feel like I should know that better than anyone. I guess that's why Jay-Z's number one rule is learning to live with it. Lord knows I've had a rough time with that one. Trying to figure out the why's and what's might have killed me...once. Sometimes it's necessary to break all ties just to bring an workable level of peace to yourself. For me, love is just about the most perplexing, complicatedly simple thing in the world. Everyone I know struggles with either having it or not having it: hopelessly in it or desperately wanting it. If anything, everyone can agree there's nothing like it and no drug that can substitute. I’ve known you (yet not) for a few years now. You’re very possibly the most complicated person I’ve ever met. I always thought you had issues with women in general. But that’s not an attack on you, so I hope you’re not offended. Men and women, in my view, at times - most times - seem hopelessly incompatible.

The end of a love relationship is painful, no doubt. And sometimes the feeling of failure presses on you just as much as the feeling of heart ache. If anyone hates the feeling of losing at anything, it’s you. Regret is a bitch. I feel like I should know that better than anyone. I guess that’s why Jay-Z’s number one rule is learning to live with it. Lord knows I’ve had a rough time with that one. Trying to figure out the why’s and what’s might have killed me…once. Sometimes it’s necessary to break all ties just to bring an workable level of peace to yourself.

For me, love is just about the most perplexing, complicatedly simple thing in the world. Everyone I know struggles with either having it or not having it: hopelessly in it or desperately wanting it. If anything, everyone can agree there’s nothing like it and no drug that can substitute.

]]> By: Kirk http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-378 Kirk Sat, 26 Feb 2005 03:08:44 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-378 On a somewhat lighter note, one need not be a pimp in order to issue a pimp slap. And I'm betting those can be damned cathartic... On a somewhat lighter note, one need not be a pimp in order to issue a pimp slap. And I’m betting those can be damned cathartic…

]]> By: Solomeen http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/2005/02/25/i-s-s-u-e-s/#comment-377 Solomeen Sat, 26 Feb 2005 02:24:17 +0000 http://www.bomanijones.com/blog/?p=74#comment-377 Love is something you don't play with. It's like handling a snake: Just when you think you've got control, it coils and bites you -- then you're done. Unexpectedly running into an old love is something that will try the strongest man. It's been my experience that there's got to be something good that -- eventually -- comes out of a situation that affects you so deeply that you can't even be in the same room with that person. That shows you've got some humanity -- some care and compassion for others -- or, at least you did at one time or another. Never mind that you want your heart to stop hurting -- it will. Learning lessons can be painful. I've always said that love and hate are next-door neighbors. Both involve strong feelings and it's easy to get caught up in the emotions of both. What rational range of feelings can make you want to kiss or kill the same person? You ain't never lied about that drug analogy. I've found myself on an occasion or two listening to Sade records and being a little b---h over a broken heart. I've found myself reflecting on a situation and asking myself, "What the hell are you doing?!?" I'm not proud of that, but it's as real Tyson in his prime. Bottom line: If you don't open yourself up to the possibility of love, you could miss out on something really special. Or, you can leave your heart in that old Nike shoebox under the bed with those dust bunnies you're collecting. That stream-of-consciousness thing can be freeing. It's what you've got to do. If you didn't have this forum, you'd write it in a journal or on a napkin. It's got to manifest somehow. No harm in being human. You're a man -- not Superman. No feelings? That makes you a pimp -- and I KNOW that's NOT what you want to be. Love is something you don’t play with. It’s like handling a snake: Just when you think you’ve got control, it coils and bites you — then you’re done.

Unexpectedly running into an old love is something that will try the strongest man.

It’s been my experience that there’s got to be something good that — eventually — comes out of a situation that affects you so deeply that you can’t even be in the same room with that person. That shows you’ve got some humanity — some care and compassion for others — or, at least you did at one time or another. Never mind that you want your heart to stop hurting — it will. Learning lessons can be painful.

I’ve always said that love and hate are next-door neighbors. Both involve strong feelings and it’s easy to get caught up in the emotions of both. What rational range of feelings can make you want to kiss or kill the same person? You ain’t never lied about that drug analogy. I’ve found myself on an occasion or two listening to Sade records and being a little b—h over a broken heart. I’ve found myself reflecting on a situation and asking myself, “What the hell are you doing?!?” I’m not proud of that, but it’s as real Tyson in his prime.

Bottom line: If you don’t open yourself up to the possibility of love, you could miss out on something really special. Or, you can leave your heart in that old Nike shoebox under the bed with those dust bunnies you’re collecting.

That stream-of-consciousness thing can be freeing. It’s what you’ve got to do. If you didn’t have this forum, you’d write it in a journal or on a napkin. It’s got to manifest somehow.

No harm in being human. You’re a man — not Superman. No feelings? That makes you a pimp — and I KNOW that’s NOT what you want to be.

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