Comments on: An Uncharacteristic Defense of P-Diddy

By: C

Wed, 13 Apr 2005 19:29:58 +0000

I am actually a child of the rare 50/50 joint custody situation and yes the one who has higher household earnings does still pay child support, or at least that’s the way it worked with my folks.

As for what Puff should do, I’m feelin the WMD on this one. The receiving party of the child support payment should not be the parent, it should be the child. I think that the way child support money is spent should be subject to audit to make sure that the money is supporting the child rather than Rims for baby momma or baby daddy whatever the case may be. And I also think that in high profile cases such as this one all surplus money should go away in a trust fund for the kid out of reach from the potentially greedy receiving parent. Now I’m sure that there are alot of people out there who use the child support to support their child, but when it comes to 20 G’s a month…

sheeit…

I need to audit that ass.

I don’t care who you are, you don’t need that much money to keep my child well fed, clothed, educated, and away from unsavory influences.

By: Valencia

Valencia — Wed, 13 Apr 2005 14:42:59 +0000

The sad thing is….Puff really was/is down for his kids like that. If you think about it, he is photographed with his kids alot, a few of his companies are in his kids names…hell the man coached Justin’s football team…and they won…so obviously he aint dipping and dodging through his sons’ lives….so what the hell is Misa’s issue…money…it has to be….I wonder if Diddy has shared custody of the kids…do you still have to pay child support if you share custody of your kids? Cause technically you are supporting the child by having shared custody of them, right?

Bomani’s note - good question. Any of you–yes, you–that pay child support, feel free to educate us. Lawyers, step up, also.

By: Fred Batiste, A Weapon of Mass Destruction

Fred Batiste, A Weapon of Mass Destruction — Wed, 13 Apr 2005 00:09:20 +0000

I say if Diddy wasn’t supporting the kids on his own from jump…then slap him with child support. Child support was intended to help children of dads/mothers who did not willingly owe up to their responsibilities..

but over time, we have saw some abuses of the system. I say overhaul it…Diddy shoulda just broken off $1,000/month and dropped the rest in an interest-bearing trust that Justin and the other lil’ dude coulda got their hands on when they turned 18..

In my opinion…that woulda got them more money for their adult lives, without their mamas coppin’ rims/clothes for themselves/cribs for themselves/clothes for their new niggas/and other personal effects….

Besides..what a child gon’ do with $20,000/month…It ain’t like that nigga is Doogie Howser and going to Harvard already. Happy Meals are still like $3…cheese don’t cost that much extra….

and oh yes: Trifinity is off the chain..and it exists…and Trifinity is another form of outright coonery that we need to break away from. Coonery only hurts us more as a people, not help

By: Kirk

Kirk — Tue, 12 Apr 2005 07:44:22 +0000

In a way, Luther’s argument is a good example of why the rules are the way they are. If marriage is the defining element of whether one half is entitled to the others standard of living, then doesn’t that give men the incentive to have children without getting married? After all, who cares if she gets pregnant? You ain’t married, so you won’t have to pay THAT much. By making the penalty a high one, the idea is (I think) to deter random and reckless baby making by making it damned expensive to do so, married or not.

That ain’t to say that’s the only reason, but it’s a damn good one if you ask me.

By: Luther R. Dawson

Luther R. Dawson — Mon, 11 Apr 2005 19:44:09 +0000

WTF? If they get paid cuz of what they accustomed to, then you know what Puffy’s mistake was? Sportcoatin’ his women. Your wife, yeah, is entitled to your lifestyle and vice versa. But them others, your girlfriend, babymama, or cut buddy arenot. Shouldn’t have bought ‘em a damn thing. That “Overnight Celebrity” shit is for the birds.

No loans. Pay your own check. All that. Then, she can’t claim to be accustomed to nothin’ but your company, and she can’t get no judge to give her that.

Follow the Luther’s creed–if it ain’t a holiday, don’t buy me shit, I won’t buy you shit, and when it’s all done, ain’t nothin’ really gonna change. Leave the bank book and the credit card. Leave with everything you came with.

By: strong4u

strong4u — Mon, 11 Apr 2005 18:17:00 +0000

It seems as if all angles have been covered on this except the legal one. I’m not a lawyer obviously, but, my understanding of the family courts system is that it’s designed to make people pay for the error of their ways. Especially men.

I believe there are actual laws on the books that dictate that ex-spouses and children of said spouses are entitled to live in a manner similar to that they’ve become accustomed to. While most of us here don’t agree with this, that’s the way it is.

In addition, while $20,000/month may sound like a lot to middle-class folk, for P. Diddy whose estimated to be worth $300 million +, that’s pocket change. He spends that on miscellaneous items per month.

p.s. I love the term “triflinity”. That’s ranks right up there with “spamity-calamity” the black dude uses in the new AOL commercial.

peace, strong

Bomani’s note - What would be the error in Puffy’s case? Being rich? So he’s worth a few hundred million…why shouldn’t he be required to pay more than everything? Maybe twenty bucks for the items on Wendy’s dollar menu?

By: Valencia

Valencia — Mon, 11 Apr 2005 16:25:26 +0000

Funny thing about this is that Diddy wasn’t “slingin” his penis around getting chics knocked up [let me take that back, he probably was hitting up hella females and groupies but you know what I mean]. Misa was his girlfriend from way back in the day. The chic with the blond hair in the jacuzzi in Biggie video, think it was One More Chance…you know the one Diddy is toasting with….they just didn’t make it as a couple. She moved on and married someone else. I remember an interview where Diddy said he was upset about that. It took him a long time to get over her….eventually he did and moved on to dating other women….as for Kim, they were together too for a while…broke up, did other things and are back together again. But back to Misa…she was cool with her child support payments and was married and had a job as hip hop stylist or whatever. It wasn’t until after she got divorced that she wanted more money. Get your alimony from your ex husband. Dont try to use the kids for it. I’m sure if Justin wants anything him or his mother just has to ring pops up.

This to me just further proves the triflinity of some women..yes that is a made up word…Some women just take men for all the money that the court can give them and don’t use it all for the children’s needs. If you two choose not to stay together, pay your own rent, car note and insurance. Don’t use the child support for that…let me stop, cause I’ll ramble on.

Bomani’s note - “triflinity” has been added to The Official Bomani Jones Thesaurus. That’s classic. Also, it was the “Big Poppa” video. Only blond chick in the “One More Chance” video was Faith “It’s the Media’s Fault I Snort Blow” Evans.

By: Solomeen

Solomeen — Sun, 10 Apr 2005 08:42:29 +0000

This is quite the conundrum. I remember that Sports Illustrated with some NBA baller’s kid on the cover with in-depth coverage of Shawn Kemp, Larry Johnson and a variety of other players and their travails with their various babymamas. I even remember one instance where the babymama had the paternity test results framed and prominently displayed in the living room. Reckless slingin’ will cost you — fo real. But I seem to recall that many of these women were hoping to hit the jackpot — and the courts allowed them to do so. I’m not condoning reckless boning, but there’s got to be some condom — uh, I mean — common sense in this mix. I wouldn’t think anyone would want their child living in a crack neighborhood, but should a woman be rewarded for not taking her part of the responsibility for an pregnancy that may or may not have been uplanned? What’s reasonable to raise a kid in our materialistic society?
I don’t feel bad for Diddy. In fact, I believe both of those pregnancies were probably intentional. But you’d have to be stupid to think all of that loot was being spent on Diddy’s progeny. Somebody’s got a new outfit to wear to the club this weekend or the Benzo needs rimzos.
Bottom line: If you’re ballin’, keep it in your pants and you won’t have this problem.

By: williethepimp

williethepimp — Sun, 10 Apr 2005 06:46:54 +0000

Hmm…that Diddy article contained a trailer for the Anthony Anderson vehicle du jour. If its anywhere as good as “Kangaroo Jack,” I’ll be saving up my nickels and dimes for a ticket. As for the Diddy, I don’t understand why divorcee’s and dey chirren are ‘posed to get what they were “accustomed” to while married. They’re grown (a “hip-hop” stylist and model respectively) and can probably make enough money to raise a child more than comfortably on their own. The kid can still have all the stuff he wants when he goes to visit daddy on weekends (am I little reckless here?). You had your own stuff. You were with Diddy. You shared his stuff. You and Diddy broke up. You go back to your own stuff. That only seems logical to me. Althogh the Diddy can easily afford these payments, the principle sides with him and it seems these ladies are trying to get over on him with their “children’s expenses”. Be easy.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Sun, 10 Apr 2005 06:14:46 +0000

I knew Puff was paying out a grip but then it makes the news that his support was decreased to 20 Gs and that he’s appealing the decision. In all reality, no it does not take that much bread to feed a child. I am the last of 9 kids and I know this to be true. However, if my parents were as rich as Puff, I would likely to have had a much more grand lifestyle. I believe it is due to the idea that your children should have a lifestyle comparable to that of the parent that awards of support like these are granted. Furthermore, we all have to be held responsible for our actions whether we are slingin it or just fell out of character for one night. You never know how it may end up. I don’t feel sorry for PD for his child support payments, but that’s the price he has to pay for being rich and knocking up a bitch.

Bomani’s note - you would have had a more grand lifestyle, most likely, if your parents had more cheese. But would you be entitled to it? But for real, how much of that is the kid gonna see?