Business…here’s a quick primer on the college hoops season.
So my buddy JR got married last weekend. One time for black love.
One of the coolest things about any affair involving his fam is hanging out with his five year-old niece (going on six, actually).
Isn’t she adorable?
Anyway, I asked her after the ceremony if it would be okay if I sat next to her at the reception. Kid makes good conversation.
A few minutes passed, and the walked up to me, took my hand, and told me we needed to talk. She led me about five steps away from everyone and then asked a question.
“What made you ask me out?”
Again, she’s 5.
That leads me to believe one thing–the bizarre self-doubt that makes women such interesting creatures to try and date really isn’t learned. It’s friggin’ innate! There’s no way for her to have the life experience to make such a question legitimate. And she said it with nothing but sincerity.
So fellas, if your lady gets a lil’ shaky about, I dunno, everything, just know that she came about it honest. Apparrently, it comes part and parcel with the second X chromosome.
Random–am I the only person that thinks that Steele cat in Maryland may have won had Mike Tyson not been seen with his “Steele ’06” t-shirt? Tyson’s got some sorta kin-in-law relationship with Steele, but still. If Mike Tyson was a registered Republican, could you imagine how awkward it would for those guys whose jobs are just to kiss ass if Tyson ever became financially solvent and made a massive donation, one so large it couldn’t go unacknowledged?
Two things – stretching for volleyball class today, i was thinking about a line that killed me in your piece yesterday: “gotta be the first time two twins named book and robin are known on campus for their ability to play basketball. Gotta be,” when I overheard two guys repeating it like three feet down from me and another talking about another piece from the article.
Second, I’ve got tickets for the final four – yanno how pumped that makes me for the season? Atlanta here I come!
Ha, ha, Bo.
I don’t think it’s innate – by the time a girl reaches 5, there’s already been plenty of time for her to receive all sorts of (positive and negative) messages about what it means to be female and black.
On a different, related note, interesting video a friend shared with me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17fEy0q6yqc&eurl=
Steele’s sister used to be married to Iron Mike, and they resided in Maryland for a short while.
Perhaps if Steele had gotten an elephant tattoo on his face, got his weight up a lil’ bit and started brawls at his debates with Sen. elect Ben Cardin, we would have had a totally different result in the Old Line State.
That is HILARIOUS. So Bo, how did you answer the question?
Yeah I would like to know how you answered that question. Most men cant answer it when a woman their own age asks. So I can imagine how you responded to a five year old.
Aaaww! What a cutie she is…
Bo’ I think that by the age of five our young girls have been bombarded with thousands of hours of televised images, radio and print ads that help them to develop (sometimes distorted) images of who they are. Check out the youtube video the first commentor posted. It’s mind-boggling that our young women feel this way in 2006.
I think it was a learned behavior. She had to have seen it somewhere and she felt compelled to ask you. And like the other posters said, did you answer her?
She is hella cute- and apparently, quite smart as well…it’s not insecurity lol…sometimes, it’s just best to ask the question.
some of the best conversations i’ve had have been with children. they’re honest in a way that’s lost once folk grow up and realize the benefits of telling a white lie every now and again.
and i agree with the previous commentor. sometimes a sista wanna know cuz she’s looking at dude like “what could we POSSIBLY have in common?!?”