{"id":1064,"date":"2009-07-30T15:16:40","date_gmt":"2009-07-30T20:16:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/blog\/?p=1064"},"modified":"2022-01-18T14:33:47","modified_gmt":"2022-01-18T22:33:47","slug":"five-years-already","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/?p=1064","title":{"rendered":"Five years, already?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Looked up and realized that in July 2004, I started this blog. \u00a0Five years ago???<!--more-->In between, I&#8217;ve said too much and not enough on it, along with neglecting it once I finally got real, full-time jobs. \u00a0That says a lot about what this blog did for me, if nothing else &#8212; somewhere to write when not enough people were paying me to do so.<br \/>\nIt&#8217;s kinda wild to go back through the archives, though. \u00a0The tone now is sooo much different. \u00a0Forget that I&#8217;m a bit more reserved and private now than I was then. \u00a0It&#8217;s wild to go back and sense the optimism in the words, something that&#8217;s certainly not as palpable now.<br \/>\nIt&#8217;s not that I&#8217;m doom and gloom now. \u00a0It&#8217;s more that the things I wanted and dreamed of then, many of them I&#8217;ve pulled off. \u00a0I&#8217;ve had columns. \u00a0I&#8217;ve been on television. \u00a0I had the job that I never, ever thought I&#8217;d have.<br \/>\nAnd when I got em, the only thing that really changed was how much money I was or was not making.<br \/>\nIt&#8217;s not even that the new penny shine is off all of this. \u00a0I love the work I do now, and I think I&#8217;m more knowledgeable and sophisticated than I ever was, and I can communicate more clearly and powerful than I could dream of when I was 23 and you couldn&#8217;t tell me a damn thing. \u00a0Being better, no matter what anyone says, is more fun.<br \/>\nBut after getting fired and thinking there was no upward mobility after that job &#8212; and finding out how stupid I was to think that &#8212; I figured out where I had it wrong before.<br \/>\nDream job? \u00a0No such thing.<br \/>\nDream work? \u00a0That&#8217;s the goal.<br \/>\nI&#8217;ve got a sample chapter from a book proposal that I&#8217;m incredibly proud of, even though I&#8217;ve yet to submit it. \u00a0I&#8217;m working six days a week now, and the 18 hours I spend on the air are the most fun I have. \u00a0I&#8217;ve got an archive page I can still go back to and find stuff from years ago that still make sense (and read better than they did then). \u00a0I&#8217;ve made friends with people I&#8217;ve looked up to, and I&#8217;ve found out some folks I looked up to really ain&#8217;t much of nobody once you meet them.<br \/>\nBut the craziest part &#8212; right now, I&#8217;m getting congratulations on &#8220;making it&#8221; based on a television special I sat for SIX YEARS AGO.<br \/>\nSince then, I&#8217;ve gone to grad school, left grad school, bought a house with money from a column that was torpedoed after less than a year, scraped by freelancing for a year, &#8220;made it,&#8221; &#8220;lost it,&#8221; taught at one of the top universities in America, learned how much a mere two unemployed months can stay with you, and then &#8220;made it&#8221; again doing something I did a long time ago.<br \/>\nMoral of the story? \u00a0Makin&#8217; it ain&#8217;t shit. \u00a0By that measure, I&#8217;d &#8220;made it&#8221; on a 24 hour trip before I had to get to math boot camp for a Ph.D program that I didn&#8217;t finish. \u00a0Makin&#8217; it? \u00a0I&#8217;ve learned there&#8217;s no such thing.<br \/>\nThe only &#8220;it&#8221; there is to make is the work I do. \u00a0Whether that be the piece I write, the segment we produce, or the class I teach, all that stands are their impacts. \u00a0The pieces are measured by what they do for the folks that read them. \u00a0The analogue is the same for what I do on radio. \u00a0The work teaching is best measured by students that invite you to meet their parents and keep asking you for advice.<br \/>\nThe work is all most of you will ever remember. \u00a0More than that, it&#8217;s the one thing I can control.<br \/>\nNot coincidentally, my most trusted mentor, Ralph Wiley, said that very thing in <a href=\"http:\/\/sports.espn.go.com\/espn\/page2\/story?page=wiley\/040610\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">the last thing he wrote<\/a> before he passed away (the same summer I started this blog). \u00a0 That&#8217;s one of those things you think makes sense when you hear it young. \u00a0Then the game kicks your ass a couple of times and you realize what it means. \u00a0In a world where one man&#8217;s opinion can derail everything you&#8217;ve planned or dreamed of, you realize quickly that all you can do is the best you can, and all you can do is trust that it&#8217;s made a contribution. \u00a0If you don&#8217;t think it has, time to work on it again.<br \/>\nJob&#8217;s are fleeting. \u00a0What you do with them is permanent.<br \/>\nSo what&#8217;s the biggest thing this blog has taught me? \u00a0Exactly what I wanted to say and what I wanted that work to be. \u00a0Greatest gift it could have given me. \u00a0Spent five years talking about a little of everything on this site. \u00a0Now? \u00a0Doing that for a living in pretty much the same terms and with the same comfort and confidence. \u00a0I don&#8217;t think that&#8217;s a coincidence.<br \/>\nAnd if you didn&#8217;t know it before, this blog is here entirely because of the good heart and assistance of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.allaboutgeorge.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">George Kelly<\/a>, whom I don&#8217;t tell nearly enough how much I owe him for what he&#8217;s done for me since 2004. \u00a0Thank you again, <span class=\"removed_link\" title=\"http:\/\/www.negrophile.com\">George<\/span>.<br \/>\n(Hell, my whole career is the byproduct of other people&#8217;s kindness &#8212; notably a gentleman named Cory Brown, whom I don&#8217;t say &#8220;thank you&#8221; to nearly enough &#8212; but the man that started the blog gets the blog shoutout.)<br \/>\nAnd thank you for reading. \u00a0A lot of you have watched me grow up and, in return, allowed me to become your friends. \u00a0That&#8217;s big stuff, when you think about it, and I can&#8217;t say how touching I&#8217;ve found that.<br \/>\nTo the next five years&#8230;whatever they may be.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Looked up and realized that in July 2004, I started this blog. \u00a0Five years ago???<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":56,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"cybocfi_hide_featured_image":"","footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[96],"class_list":["post-1064","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog","tag-boblogs"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1064","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/56"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1064"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1064\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1064"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1064"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bomanijones.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1064"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}